Are we wired to live together 24 x 7 – 365 days a year?
As the government keeps oscillating between Lockdown , relaxations, partial restrictions and various actions I wonder if they realise what the stress levels are at homes and other residences. Personally, I am not sure that human beings are wired to being cooped up in a “Noah’s Ark” kind of situation.
When you know that your daily life is a routine of bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, dining room, television, dining room, bathroom and bedroom – you are going to start showing signs of stress. You cannot put on a show of smiling and being pleasant always. You are with others but you are confined. It is like being in Multiple Confinement. You have members of your family scattered across the land and you cannot even go over to see them due to the prohibition of movement. You cannot see your friends, no window shopping, no coffee or a drink at a restaurant. No movies in a theatre. It’s not funny.
So, what do we do? – I have no answer. I am not a psychologist or counsellor. However, I feel that we can try and ease the stress by exercising, maybe sit in separate rooms, listen to music, write down what you feel, talk to your friends and moan about your stress, hear others moaning too. Do not try to act as this strong person who can handle everything by bottling stuff inside. If someone is irritating you at home, tell them. Do not keep everything stacked inside. I often believe a blow up is good to release pent up anger. You may feel better post that. Do your work as you would on a normal day, do not postpone anything you had planned to do now.
What we shouldn’t do – I feel we should be moderate in our drinking habits, if you smoke, try to cut this down. Cigarettes are ‘downers’ and only give you temporary relief. Do not over eat. Sleep only when you would on a normal, no lock down day. Try and go back to a hobby you may have forgotten to do in years. It’s never too late. Do not watch or read about ‘others’ having ‘fun’ , you will never know what is the real story behind the laughter or the happiness and eagerness to tell you how great a time the ‘others’ are having.
All this is uncharted territory. So, your co-resident is facing the same pressures as you are. Try and be patients with others at home. If you want to scream go to a corner and do that.
I would love to hear what you have been doing to cope with your present situation. Stay Safe.
( Do remember that we are living with those who, like you, have never experienced anything like this. Watch for erratic behaviour. Try and be calm. This too shall pass)